Monday, April 4, 2011

8 Months Since Caate became ours!!!

Wow! 8 Amazing months!

If you were to ask me what is the best thing that's happened in 8 months, this is what I'd say: Caate is attaching well!!! Yes, there's ups and there are downs when it comes to attachment. But, in the last few months it's been way more ups than downs. She really is getting to know where her real deep love comes from and that we will always be there for her. No matter what! There's no more desire to run to strangers. She keeps close to us. And just the other day, we had another great moment I want to share!

My parents had arrive to help look after the kids for the adoption conference and Steven Curtis Chapman concert!!!!! So on Saturday, my mom said Terence and I should get out for a bit while Ryden goes to a birthday party. So, we put Caate for her nap (in which grandma helped!) and left. She knew where we were going and that we'd be back later. Well, when we got back a couple hours later...Caate was fine. (we thought) Then, about 10 minutes after we got home...while I was snuggling her...tears started to pour down her face. And, she kept hugging me tighter and tighter. She missed me. She missed us. We think she was scared that we wouldn't come back. But, she knows we do. The thing is, I haven't left her very many times since we've been home. If I leave, Papa is always there. But this time, we both left. Our poor little girl held in her fears for the whole time we were gone. Thankfully she felt safe enough, to burst into tears in my arms. That, is great progress. And truthfully...my heart was singing for joy as she was crying her heart out. The cry was unique. It was a cry we rarely hear. We hear all types of crying...but not this one. It was music to my ears. It was a cry of love for us...and she wanted to make sure we loved her too. And, that we did come back. I reassure her all the time that we do come back. But, I have a feeling she may always be this way when we leave her. I know there was some major neglect in her life. 3 1/2 years of neglect. People leaving her and really, never coming back. We want her to know we will always come back...hopefully she will learn that we will, always. I know it will take time, lots of time. Maybe years and years...who knows. But for today....it was another giant step forward in the attachment category. Caate is loving us deeper and deeper every day. And that, is worth all the heart ache, pain and stress that we've felt for 8 months trying to do what is best for Caate in regards to attachment. Hoping our protection over her, restricting hugs from anyone besides our immediate family and grand parents in order to help her attach to us in the best way. Knowing, we don't know all the answers....we aren't experts. We, are just two parents that love our kids...all our kids. And, hoped our research on attachment would be enough to work with her!!! We'd like to say it's working...but, that will really take years to fully see. But for now....this mama is happier than ever...knowing my daughter missed me and hugged me tight and didn't want to let me go. And, missed her Papa equally! That is something to CELEBRATE!!!!!

We think Caate is finally starting to gain a bit of weight! This, is HUGE! Of course our scale is not really accurate...but just looking at her skinny mini little body...it looks like she's getting a bit (and I mean a bit!) of fat on her. She's grown 3 inches in the last 8 months...so she is growing. But, just UP!

So, what's next? Well, Caate is getting her tonsils and adenoids out on Thursday April 7th! This, hopefully will help her sleep deeper and with ease and hopefully will burn less calories at night trying to breath and in turn helping her gain some much needed weight! She definitely eats WELL!! So, Thursday is one big day! I will get to stay over night with her so I am VERY happy about that. If you pray, will you say a prayer that day for Caate...and the rest of us! I know Caate, she is tough. She, can handle pretty much anything. She will LOVE all the popsicles and jello. She is going to be in heaven. She loved her dental surgery day...so, we'll see about this one. I think this will definitely be harder on her...but we'll see how much harder. Like I said, she is one tough girl. :-)

Well, that's it I think. Life is good. Caate's vocabulary is developing well! She recognizes most of her letters now and says them. She can write some as well. For someone a couple months ago who couldn't care less about letters or numbers...it's amazing to see! I'm so proud of how far she's come in 8 months. :-)

Yesterday we attended (what I think was) Calgary's first adoption conference, called End the Wait tour 2011!!! It was put on by Focus on the Family Canada. They sponsored Steven Curtis Chapman and Geoff Moore and they've been making their way across Canada. They have 5 cities across Canada where they have done an info sessions on the 30,000 kids that are in foster care across Canada. Bringing awareness to most that don't know about the thousands of kids that are without a mom or dad. Steven Curtis Chapman and Geoff Moore both have adopted children from China and both have great hearts for the fatherless! They put on a fantastic concert last night that packed the place out!

Steven has 3 adopted daugthers from China and 3 biological. He shared about the accidental death of his youngest daughter (from China) that happened 3 years ago this May. They've been through some dark days, but, they have hope because of what Christ has done for us. That one day they will see Marie Sue again, in Heaven.

God is our father, who is the ultimate adoptive dad that invites anyone who so chooses to become a child of God. Adoption is so close to God's heart. He wants us to take care of the fatherless. Doesn't just mean adoption, or foster care. It could mean making a meal for a family that just adopted a child. It could mean giving respite to a couple that is fostering a special needs child. It could mean sponsoring a child with Campassion Canada or World vision (or many others) James 1:27 says this "Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress..."

I was reminded last night of many things. But one thing I know...God has only begun to use our lives in order to spread His love for the fatherless. God has great plans for Canada, for Alberta and for Calgary! We are both excited to see what God is going to do!!

Please go to the focus on the Family website for more info on adoption in Canada. Or, if you have any questions I would be more than happy to try and answer them or redirect you to someone that would know the answer.

I'll leave you with some photos of our little Caate...8 months home! I took this pics just this morning. Boy, I'm not sure what I would do without my girl. :-)





8 Months since Caate has been with us!

Wow! 8 Amazing months!

If you were to ask me what is the best thing that's happened in 8 months, this is what I'd say: Caate is attaching well!!! Yes, there's ups and there are downs when it comes to attachment. But, in the last few months it's been way more ups than downs. She really is getting to know where her real deep love comes from and that we will always be there for her. No matter what! There's no more desire to run to strangers. She keeps close to us. And just the other day, we had another great moment I want to share!

My parents had arrive to help look after the kids for the adoption conference and Steven Curtis Chapman concert!!!!! So on Saturday, my mom said Terence and I should get out for a bit while Ryden goes to a birthday party. So, we put Caate for her nap (in which grandma helped!) and left. She knew where we were going and that we'd be back later. Well, when we got back a couple hours later...Caate was fine. (we thought) Then, about 10 minutes after we got home...while I was snuggling her...tears started to pour down her face. And, she kept hugging me tighter and tighter. She missed me. She missed us. We think she was scared that we wouldn't come back. But, she knows we do. The thing is, I haven't left her very many times since we've been home. If I leave, Papa is always there. But this time, we both left. Our poor little girl held in her fears for the whole time we were gone. Thankfully she felt safe enough, to burst into tears in my arms. That, is great progress. And truthfully...my heart was singing for joy as she was crying her heart out. The cry was unique. It was a cry we rarely hear. We hear all types of crying...but not this one. It was music to my ears. It was a cry of love for us...and she wanted to make sure we loved her too. And, that we did come back. I reassure her all the time that we do come back. But, I have a feeling she may always be this way when we leave her. I know there was some major neglect in her life. 3 1/2 years of neglect. People leaving her and really, never coming back. We want her to know we will always come back...hopefully she will learn that we will, always. I know it will take time, lots of time. Maybe years and years...who knows. But for today....it was another giant step forward in the attachment category. Caate is loving us deeper and deeper every day. And that, is worth all the heart ache, pain and stress that we've felt for 8 months trying to do what is best for Caate in regards to attachment. Hoping our protection over her, restricting hugs from anyone besides our immediate family and grand parents in order to help her attach to us in the best way. Knowing, we don't know all the answers....we aren't experts. We, are just two parents that love our kids...all our kids. And, hoped our research on attachment would be enough to work with her!!! We'd like to say it's working...but, that will really take years to fully see. But for now....this mama is happier than ever...knowing my daughter missed me and hugged me tight and didn't want to let me go. And, missed her Papa equally! That is something to CELEBRATE!!!!!

We think Caate is finally starting to gain a bit of weight! This, is HUGE! Of course our scale is not really accurate...but just looking at her skinny mini little body...it looks like she's getting a bit (and I mean a bit!) of fat on her. She's grown 3 inches in the last 8 months...so she is growing. But, just UP!

So, what's next? Well, Caate is getting her tonsils and adenoids out on Thursday April 7th! This, hopefully will help her sleep deeper and with ease and hopefully will burn less calories at night trying to breath and in turn helping her gain some much needed weight! She definitely eats WELL!! So, Thursday is one big day! I will get to stay over night with her so I am VERY happy about that. If you pray, will you say a prayer that day for Caate...and the rest of us! I know Caate, she is tough. She, can handle pretty much anything. She will LOVE all the popsicles and jello. She is going to be in heaven. She loved her dental surgery day...so, we'll see about this one. I think this will definitely be harder on her...but we'll see how much harder. Like I said, she is one tough girl. :-)

Well, that's it I think. Life is good. Caate's vocabulary is developing well! She recognizes most of her letters now and says them. She can write some as well. For someone a couple months ago who couldn't care less about letters or numbers...it's amazing to see! I'm so proud of how far she's come in 8 months. :-)

Yesterday we attended (what I think was) Calgary's first adoption conference, called End the Wait tour 2011!!! It was put on by Focus on the Family Canada. They sponsored Steven Curtis Chapman and Geoff Moore and they've been making their way across Canada. They have 5 cities across Canada where they have done an info sessions on the 30,000 kids that are in foster care across Canada. Bringing awareness to most that don't know about the thousands of kids that are without a mom or dad. Steven Curtis Chapman and Geoff Moore both have adopted children from China and both have great hearts for the fatherless! They put on a fantastic concert last night that packed the place out!

Steven has 3 adopted daugthers from China and 3 biological. He shared about the accidental death of his youngest daughter (from China) that happened 3 years ago this May. They've been through some dark days, but, they have hope because of what Christ has done for us. That one day they will see Marie Sue again, in Heaven.

God is our father, who is the ultimate adoptive dad that invites anyone who so chooses to become a child of God. Adoption is so close to God's heart. He wants us to take care of the fatherless. Doesn't just mean adoption, or foster care. It could mean making a meal for a family that just adopted a child. It could mean giving respite to a couple that is fostering a special needs child. It could mean sponsoring a child with Campassion Canada or World vision (or many others) James 1:27 says this "Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress..."

I was reminded last night of many things. But one thing I know...God has only begun to use our lives in order to spread His love for the fatherless. God has great plans for Canada, for Alberta and for Calgary! We are both excited to see what God is going to do!!

Please go to the focus on the Family website for more info on adoption in Canada. Or, if you have any questions I would be more than happy to try and answer them or redirect you to someone that would know the answer.

I'll leave you with some photos of our little Caate...8 months home! I took this pics just this morning. Boy, I'm not sure what I would do without my girl. :-)