Friday, January 23, 2009

Some nice news on the adoption front!

We just heard from our agency that our documents are back from order in council(legalization) today and are on there way to the translator. She said it takes about 3 weeks to be finalized! So, hopefully soon after we get back from our holiday our file should go to Russia! So exciting!!! What a great way to start our holiday! I wasn't expecting this...so what a treat! Happy day Happy day!

:-)

love,
Carala

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

IAFA Calgary Mom's Night Out!

Today has been a sick day for Trennon and I. We've had lots of chicken noodle soup and tea. It was nice to spend the day with him...but I would have rather not been sick. Ryden made us smile (as usual) and we all made it through the day.

I was just sitting here tonight noticing that there's plenty of room for a little girl to sqeeze between her brothers in the skating picture on our blog. Kind of interesting that we're not closer together. I was just dreaming of her laying between her brothers. What a happy thought.

Last night I went out with a bunch of mom's and mom's to be! What a great night. There were 7 of us that met at a little italian restaurant and spend a couple hours just chatting about our adoption proccesses so far and all the crazyness that we've experienced through the last months and years. IAFA (if you don't know) is the International Adoptive Family Association. It's a great organization that does a lot of different events for families that are adopting or have adopted internationally. They give a lot of good information too. This is one event I didn't want to miss out on. I know we'll be doing more of these nights. This was our first. It's just nice to be able to share stories and know that everyone understands the ups and downs of adoption. Some are on their second adoption and some it's their first. We're all at various points and it was a great encouragment that we will make it through! So, thanks girls for the great night! I can't wait until our next one! :-)

If you are in Calgary, adopting internationally or have adopted internationally, and would love to meet some mom's in the same boat...please email me! We love to have you join us for the next one!

Well, hopefully we have a good night with Trennon...his fever is high this evening. It's no fun seeing your kids sick...you just want to take it away and be sick yourself...oh ya, I am already! :-) I just hope we both a good sleep tonight. Good night everyone.

...Carala

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

palm trees?

So, you may have wondered (or not) why there are palm trees on the background of my blog...yes, strange in the winter...and since we're from Canada where there are no palm trees! Well, we're going on a winter holiday in the near future...to a nice, warm, sandy destination. A break we need from reality and all this adoption stuff. We hope that our stuff will go to Russia within a month of us getting back from our holiday. I'm getting so excited for it to go...so this escape is nice timing to help me not think about it! There's nothing a margarita can't fix! :-)

....Carala

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Happy Birthday Mom (Terence's Mom)!!!!!

Today this post is dedicated to my Mother-In-Law. It's her 72nd birthday today! I don't normally stray too far from adoption news etc... but today I wanted to honor my mom in a little way.

I first met my "mom to be" back in March, 1999 on a trip out to Montreal. The next year Terence and I were married and I became a daughter to her. The thing I appreciate most about mom is her unconditional love for me. I've always felt accepted by her as her daughter, though she has 3 wonderful daughters of her own. There wasn't once that I didn't feel loved by her.

Every Tuesday Ryden and I go and pick mom up and bring her to our house for the day. Mom has had Alzheimer's for most of the 10 years I've known her. Most recently it has gotten a lot worse so all the kids have tried to help dad out in one way or another. Terence's sister comes to town 2 days a week and hangs out with mom. She's an amazing sister-in-law and I'm so thankful for her and all she does. Ryden and I have a great time with mom every week. Though we don't understand much of what mom says...I know in my heart that Mom loves and cares for me as deeply as she ever has. You can see it in her eyes and by the hugs she reaches for so often. We have fun baking sugar-free stuff for Dad every week, do crafts with Ryden and drink a lot of coffee and eat a lot of sweets(especially chocolate!). These times, though not always easy, are some of my favorate times during my week. I feel like God has blessed us with her love and contagious laugh. I thank God so often for giving me such a wonderful Mother-In-Law(and Father-In-Law!) Not many are this lucky I know.

We will celebrate her birthday with supper at our house later today and of course chocolate cup cakes for dessert!

Happy Birthday Mom, with many more to come!

Love,
Carala (your daughter always!)

Monday, January 5, 2009

Looking back at 2008...and movin' on to 2009!

Happy New Year to you!! I have to say this is probably one of the first times in my life that I've looked back at the year I just lived...and thought how incredible it was!! I think any year that you've seen yourself grow closer to Christ...is an incredible year! For me 2008 was a year of learning a lot of lessons. I feel I grew up in a lot of ways. I've learned how to be more patient. To trust God with everything that is in me. To be thankful in the hard times. And to love my family with greater love. The love God has given me! Yes, there's still a lot more to learn and more ways to grow...but I have to say 2008 was a year I'll never forget. Yes, there was loss and disappointment. Our year ended with a friend going home to be with His Father. I didn't know him well...but he impacted me more than I realized. He passed on Dec 31st at a young age of 53. We only met them a year ago. A group of us put together a care package last Christmas for him and his family. He even got out to attend our church this past spring. Who knew he would soon be with his father...and having the ability to run again! Our heart goes out to his family. I don't know how you go on when you experience such a great loss...but I know God is their strength. I am so thankful that they have Hope in Christ...and that one day they will see him again in heaven.

A family member of ours also experienced great loss this year. It's hard to see family go through such painful times. It's these losses that have given me this great desire to live life to the fullest. To love more deeply, care more passionately, give more freely, and grow much deeper in Christ. It's hard to give up control of your life. So many times we want to take back that control. It's scary to think....I wonder what God wants me to do now...or where he wants me to go? With our adoption pending....we know our place is here for the next few years...but then what? I love knowing I'm where God wants me to be....here...but this is home..comfortable, easy...but what if he wants us to go overseas...where life isn't always so comfortable, easy? But, I know if we're ever called to do that...God will prepare us for that...and will take care of us.

So, 2009...what is in store for us?. Well, I know in my heart it's going to be one exciting year! If we're lucky...we may just be holding our daughter in our arms by this time next year. If not, we'll be sooo close! Our friends are at this moment...picking up their son in Ethiopia!!!! We are anxiously waiting to hear that they have him...for good! We met our friends at the International Adoption Course here in Calgary in 2007. Though they are from Edmonton....we love them just the same. :-) We are so happy that they finally will be parents and have this little adorable boy to love for the rest of their lives. He is around 7 months (I believe) and is the most gorgeous boy out there...well, except for mine...but pretty darn cute! It's been so exciting to follow their journey to Ty. We can't wait for the day our girl and Ty will meet. Who knows...they may even be the same age!

I want to leave you with something I found on another blog. It brought tears to my eyes. When God calls a women to be an adoptive parent...he places in her heart something special....


Being an adoptive mother is not for every woman. She must possess not only the natural mother instinct but an understanding and appreciation of the situation that brought a child into her arms making her a mother. The adoptive family came to be by choices made, choices made by the first parents and by the adoptive parents. This bond the adoptive mother has with her child grows over time, like the child did within his first mother’s womb. Day by day, touch by touch, with each tear, kiss, and memory made they became a family. Adoptive mothers have that special knack to let love grow.

Adoptive mothers know that she’s a mender of wounds, not just of the physical skinned knees with a band-aid and a kiss, but of the heart. She gives love, acceptance, and permission to ask and talk about the day he was born and of his first parents.Adoptive mothers are embracers, not only of the child with many hugs and kisses, but of the child’s heritage and history. She embraces the facts of her child’s past with strength for herself and the child.

She’s not only a memory maker planning family vacations, activities, and birthday parties, but also a memory keeper. Details of a birth, photos of the hospital, and of the parents who brought her into the world are kept along side the newspaper clipping that announced it all. All these things are kept in a special book that tells the whole story.

She’s a tier of shoelaces and of hearts. She weaves lives together into a tapestry of a new family, with many different brightly, colored threads showcasing their individualities and family origins. Together they create one unit attached to each other.

Adoptive mothers are experts at finding lost objects, but understand and validate the profound, deep loss left by adoption. She allows the tears to fall and grief to be felt, allowing the mourning of the mom not there. She is secure in knowing that she’s not a replacement, but a finisher of a race for someone who, for whatever reason, could not run any longer.

This role is not for the weak of spirit, or the easily wounded. Loving a child not born to her but calling him her own, but this is what she does, it is her calling. She is a mother.

Thank you all for embarking on another year with us. I know it's going to be an amazing one! I just know it! I just think of where we've come and I'm thankful for all the support we've had all along. No matter where the road God chose for us took us...you guys followed along. Thanks for being there.

So, let's get the year started baby! I just know that every day that goes by...is one day closer to holding my baby girl. What a wonderful thought that is!

Love,
Carala