Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Our meeting with Choices

Thank you to the "anonymous reply to my last post"....you inspired me to post today....

The meeting went well. Holly was there from Choices. She always answer questions with ease and gives me full confidence that we made the right choice when going with CHOICES (ha!). Sorry. I'm a little tired today. Anyway, She first talked about Russia (someone talked about their adoption experience from about 3 years ago) and then she talked about Bulgaria a bit. But not much since no one was really there for that country. Then she went on to Taiwan. It looks like there looking at 2 more orphanages in Taiwan. She thought maybe by summer they may have something more concrete. But, I know how things go. So don't get your hopes up. I'm am excited about this prospect though. We would all hopefully get our kids faster...which is best for the kids and best for us! It's a win/win situation! I believe she said there are 12 files in Taiwan and 8 in translation. The rest who are interested are put on "hold". Not totally sure if this is 100% correct. I don't really like to get caught up on this kind of stuff. We're amongst the 8 being translated right now. It's been over 2 weeks so hopefully in March sometime we'll get our stuff back. I asked Holly if the "3-5 file rule" is being implimented with their agency yet. She said yes. But really, does it really make a difference. Even with the 12 files in Taiwan...how many are even being looked at, at the moment. I'm sure they only look at so many at a time. So, I think it's ok. I think they need to control the amount of files coming to Chung Yi. I agreed with Holly. It is a good decision. And, if they get more contracts with other orphanages then I think things could potentially go faster. Of course, these are only my opinions. Don't go posting anything I say on the adoption forums!! :-) I think forums are for putting "good" information only. Not opinions that can stress people out. I'm a little tired of the "stress" on those forums. That is why I don't post any longer. So, if you ever want to "chat" with me about adoption/Taiwan stuff then feel free to email me direct. I'm always up for a chat!

It was just a really great meeting to be at. Meeting new faces and getting to know new ones. I got to chat with our social worker from Calgary which was nice too. Patty from Calgary (I believe) had just gotten back from CHUNG YI(they are in translation as well)!!! Yes, we saw pictures of the Orphanage. It's was amazing! Lots of toys, bright colors, books, books, and more books line the shelves, cute little bunk beds,.....it looks like a really well run place! It was hard to believe looking at the photos that it really is an ORPHANAGE!!! It looked so wonderful and Patty confirmed that too. So, seeing pictures and hearing about the Orphanage made it worth going just on it's own. CUTE kids too!!!! I can't wait to see pictures of our girl!!!!!!

Anyway, if I think of anything else worth saying I'll post again. My head just isn't working too well today...a little tired.


Thursday, February 21, 2008

Information meeting with Choices, Sunday, Feb 24th here in Calgary!

We're very excited that our adoption facilitator, CHOICES, is coming to Calgary this weekend. Sunday Feb. 24 from 2-4pm at the CO-OP on McLeod Trail S. (for those who are interested in Taiwan, Bulgaria, or Russia information). It's always great to meet up with others that are in the program or interested in the program. It will be good to hear from Choices on how things are going and what the outlook is for Taiwan. So far they are doing a great job of facilitating this program. It's never an easy task to take on something new. Nothing ever goes as planned, so we need to support them, as they have supported us. We are a team working towards every one's best interest. Choices is making a way for us to adopt our sons and daughters. Isn't that just amazing?!! That someone would go through the pain and headache of red tape and bureaucracy so you and I can love a child of our own for the very first time, or maybe for the third time. So one more child has a family and a home that is safe, warm and full of love. What a great gift they are giving.

My passion for adoption is growing...and some days I wonder how I'll be able to take just one little girl from that orphanage. There are so many, so many that need families. How do you stop at one?..... I guess that's why the stats are, 90% of people who adopt, adopt for a second time.....interesting.

Good night everyone....

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

belated - Happy Chinese New Year!!! .....and a little update

So, we didn't get to celebrate Chinese News years with the gang from IAFA(international adoptive family assoc.)...we missed the Lion Dance. I saw a video clip of it and it looked great! Terence arrived back in Canada just when the party was starting so we'll have to catch it next year. We also had another invitation for Chinese New Years that we couldn't make. I know there's always next year. It's just hard missing stuff like that. I plan to be more on the ball next year. This celebration is all so new for us. Hopefully we can decorate the house and have some fun next year with others adopting from Taiwan.

So, our stuff is in Translation!! Yippeee...now to wait. We've had some great talks with Choices lately and we're happy with how things sit for us. We're on their "first list", vs. being on their "second list". It looks like the people on the frist list either have their papers almost in Translation or in Translation already. Plus there are around 8-9 that have their documents in Taiwan. 3 referals have been made to those already with their files in Taiwan, but 2 were declined. So, we wait to see what happens next. They don't know yet if our stuff will go to Taiwan right after they are translated...or with this new "3-5 file" rule(our agency may only be able to send 3-5 files at time), things could be different. Nothing is for sure yet. We are hoping to find out more about this "rule" sometime soon by email from Choices. They are supposed to talk with Chung Yi this week to talk about these things that are unclear. We hope our file will get sent before this rule is put in place. All we can do is pray that this rule takes longer to impliment! :-) So, even though it looks like our stuff could go to Taiwan soon...the wait is still long. Could be up to 2 years before we get our daughter. I know, it's crazy. But, if we can get our file in sooner...who knows. We just have to keep positive and know God will take care of our girl until we get there!

Well, that's all for now. Some days this all just seems like a dream world. Will it ever happen? Will we ever get our daughter? Then when I saw a friend at play group this morning with one of her two Chinese adopted girls...and I know it will happen for us too. It's great to be around those that have adopted! It's encouraging, but also makes me want to hold our daughter right now, and not later! And not have to wait for paper work and political nonsense. But, my impatience reminds me that I need to trust God more. Then I'm fine...until I stop trusting again. :-) What a crazy world we've entered into....it's not always easy. But, I know how worth it, it will be!!!!!


Sunday, February 3, 2008

You know you are an adoptive Mother if.......

I found this on a blog and just had to post it....thanks Dawn.(another Calgarian adopting from Taiwan too!)

You know you are an adoptive Mother (or you should be!) if:

1. The fact that there are 143 million children without a parent to kiss them goodnight has ever made you lose sleep.
2. You realize DNA has nothing to do with love and family.
3. You can't watch Adoption Stories on TLC without sobbing.
4. The fact that if 7% of Christians adopted 1 child, there would be no orphans in the world is convicting to you.
5. You spend free time surfing blogs about families who have experienced the blessing of adoption.
6. It drives you crazy when people ask you about your adopted child's "real" parents.
7. You have ever been "pregnant" with your adoptive child longerthan it takes an elephant to give birth (2 years!)
8. You had no idea how you would afford to adopt but stepped outin faith anyway knowing where God calls you He will provide.
9. You have ever taken a airplane ride half way around the world with a child you just met.
10. You believe God's heart is for adoption.
11. You realize that welcoming a child into your heart and family is one of the most important legacy's you could ever leave on this earth.
12. You know what the word Dossier means and you can actuallypronounce it!
13. You have welcomed a social worker into the most private parts of your life.
14. You shudder when people say your child is so lucky that you adopted them, knowing full well you are the blessed one to have them inyour life.

I did not create this list, but boy can relate to it.esp # 14.


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Friday, February 1, 2008

Place of Rescue, AIDS Orphanage in Cambodia in need of our help....

Both Terence and I have a wonderful, exciting opportunity to go to Cambodia in May. We have the unique privilege of going with a team from our church(Rockpointe Church) for two weeks to work in an AIDS orphanage called The Place of Rescue. (www.placeofrescue.com) The scope of the project will be to install Solar lighting in 45 of the buildings and AIDS homes within the orphanage complex. This will help provide light for 150 AIDS orphans, mothers, and grannies at Rescue who would otherwise be in the dark after the generator is turned off in the evening. The lights will also help off-load the generator and reduce operating costs.

I never knew how much our lives would change, the moment we considered adoption. Both our hearts have been opened to give more of ourselves to helping orphans and those who just need our help. Given that lighting and electrical stuff is totally up Terence's alley, we feel that we have been lead to this place, in order to help give little orphaned boys and girls, light after dark. We take so many thing for granted living in such a blessed country. We really want as parents to show our kids that it is our responsibility to help others less fortunate and to share God's love with those who don't know there is a God that loves and cares for them. Sometimes we feel so small on this earth. How can I make a difference in this vast world? How much of a difference will my little donation or two weeks in an Orphanage make in a place that is in such need. I believe God will make a difference in this world if we let him use us. So, we decided to take a leap of faith and hope that even if we just bring a smile to 1 sad face that has been in the dark every night, we know we will have made a difference in someone life.

We want all 3 of our kids to know that we didn't just want to go to an orphanage to pick our daughter up, but to serve an orphanage. We feel like this has left a permenent imprint on our lives and in our hearts. We want our daughter to know that because of her, we have this passion in our hearts now to really take a step and do what we can to help other kids in orphanages, and those less fortunate. As much as I'll be tempted to take everyone home from Rescue, I know I can't. But if I can help them, give them light, give them smiles, and show them that God loves them...then I feel I've given of myself alittle and that I've done something not because I get something from it, but soley to give of myself. God didn't put me on this earth to ride the "easy life". He wants to use me to help others, he wants our family to help others.

Thank you all for being part of our journey, part of lives being changed. Our trip to Cambodia is taking a little more money than expected. If you feel you'd like to contribute to our trip, which coveres plane tickets and expenses I'm going to leave some info below. Personally I feel so blessed to just have the support of my friends and family encouraging us and being excited for us. I know God will take care of the rest. I want to leave this posting with one last quote. I read it in the book I read over our holidays called "Beyond the Blue" by Leslie Gould. It's a must read for those adopting or not. My mom read it and loved it as well. In short it's about a Vietnamese adoption that takes place. A heart wrenching book. Go pick it up from your library today, you won't regret it! This quote is from there.

“I’ve wanted to trust humans, when God has wanted me to trust him. And not because my trust will control the outcome, but by trusting I’ll be faithful, by trusting I’ll be changed.”


Your donations will go directly towards my plane tickets and expenses. All donations over $10 get a tax receipt through RockPointe Church.

You can donate online with VISA or MASTERCARD through a secure donation system called SPORG. Follow the below link, then click on:
Fill-in the form, and choose my name(Carala or Terence Jellema) from the pull down menu under "Donation Designation".


If you donate online could you please let me know you did so? I'd like to track this so that I can report back to all my supporters on how things went and the impact the project had for the orphanage.

Thank you.
The Jellemas